How to Defeat Fear.

July 11, 2012

How to Defeat Fear

Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave instructions for the battle.

The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, “May I have permission to go into battle with you?”

Fear said, “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission.”

Then the young warrior said, “How can I defeat you?”

Fear replied, “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.”

In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear.

— from Pema Chödrön Heart Advice

Much of your pain is self-chosen.

June 5, 2012

And a woman spoke, saying, Tell us of Pain.

And he said:
Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.
And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy;
And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields.
And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief.

Much of your pain is self-chosen.
It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.
Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility:
For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen,
And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears.

The Prophet, Kahlil Gibran, Alfred A. Knopf, 1978, p. 52-4

Exaggerated sensitiveness is an expression of the feeling of inferiority.

February 24, 2012

Exaggerated sensitivity: I’ve met that in myself and a few franchisees over 14 years.


Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations.

Every therapeutic cure, and still more, any awkward attempt to show the patient the truth, tears him from the cradle of his freedom from responsibility and must therefore reckon with the most vehement resistance.

My difficulties belong to me!

To be a human being means to possess a feeling of inferiority which constantly presses towards its own conquest. The greater the feeling of inferiority that has been experienced, the more powerful is the urge for conquest and the more violent the emotional agitation.

Alfred Adler 1870-1937

The silence of possible betrayal

November 18, 2011

Franchising is a technology that borrows methods from totalitarian strategies.


The Womb State

Totalitarianism  is a  man’s escape form the fearful realities of life into the virtual womb of the leader. The individual’s actions are directed from this womb – from the inner sanctum. The mystic center is a control of everything man need no longer assume responsibility for his own life. The order and logic of the prenatal world reign. There is peace and silence, the peace of utter submission. The members of the womb state do not really communicate; between them there is silence, the silence of possible betrayal, not the mature silence of reticence and reservedness. Totalitaria increases the gap between the things one shows and communicates and the things one secretly dreams and thinks deep within oneself. It develops the artificial split-mindedness of political science. Whatever little remains of individual feeling and opinion is kept carefully enclosed. In the schizophrenic world of Totalitaria, there is no free mutual exchange, no conversation, no exclamation, no release from emotional tension. It is a world of silent conspirators. Indeed, the atmosphere of suspicion is the big attacker of mental freedom because it makes people cling together, conspiring against mysterious enemies – first from outside, then among themselves….

The deep hate the sick individual feels toward the parental figure cannot be expressed directly, and so it is displaced onto the self or onto scapegoats. Scapegoatism is also part of the totalitarian strategy. As we pointed out before, the scapegoat temporarily absorbs all the individual’s inner fury and rage. Kulaks, Negroes, Jews, Communists, capitalists, profiteers and warmongers – any or all of them can play the role. Perhaps the greatest dangers, to the totalitarian mind, is the use of intellect and awareness and the “egg-head’s” demand for free, verifying thinking. Aberration and perversion are chosen by the citizens of Totalitaria, as they are by the inhabitants of madhouses, over tiring, intellectual control.

— Dr. Joost A. M. Meerloo,The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing, 1956, p. 121 – 2

As long as you hate, there will be people to hate.

September 26, 2011

I’ll play what you want or I won’t play at all.

If everyone who had a gun just shot themselves, there wouldn’t be a problem.

All the world is birthday cake, so take a piece but not too much.

If there’s a God, I want to see Him. It’s pointless to believe in something without proof, and Krishna consciousness and meditation are methods where you can actually obtain God perception. In that way you can see, hear and play with God. Perhaps this may sound weird, but God is really there next to you.

Rap music is just computerised crap. I listen to Top of the Pops and after three songs I feel like killing someone.

Love one another. [last]

Anyway, there is one thing I have learned and that is not to dress uncomfortably, in styles which hurt: winklepicker shoes that cripple your feet and tight pants that squash your balls. Indian clothes are better.

You can be standing right in front of the truth and not necessarily see it, and people only get it when they’re ready to get it.
George Harrison 1943 – 2001

Man is the ultimate comparing animal

March 10, 2011

Franchisees show up, confusing equal to fair.

To treat everyone equally is the height of unfairness.

If this makes no sense to you, you’re still on the couch.

[Touch Me There]

Without courage all virtues lose their meaning.

March 3, 2011

Franchisees are at war almost 100% of the time.

Occasionally they are aware of it.

[Winston Churchill, Vintagraph]

Don’t sue franchisors or wrestle with pigs.

February 26, 2011

You’ll only get dirty and they like it.

It’ll only bring you down.

Don’t sue unless you absolutely have to or absolutely DO NOT have to.

[Buddha Brot]

You’ve got to serve somebody

January 25, 2011

Franchise, franchisor: who cares.

You don’t seriously think that you can withstand the millions of asshole messages being driven into your family’s brain without trying to set an example with a spiritual practice?

Do you?

Please name the generation that has successfully done that without sky-high levels of neurosis.

Thought so.

[Golden Age Comic Books]

Fade away?

January 18, 2011

Ideal for me, I guess.

Click image and watch Homer go away.

[Syrian Lady]

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