All addictions (even +ve ones) are bad, CG Jung

January 24, 2011

Coffee is my single discretionary one.

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I need to drop it like I dropped tobacco, after +30 years.

May my last addiction be to turning over rocks so others can squish what slithers out.

[Nerd in Love]

Follow your Schlange, follow your snake.

May 13, 2010

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.

The material world does matter.

I have treated many hundreds of patients. Among those in the second half of life – that is to say, over 35 – there has not been one whose problem in the last resort was not that of finding a religious outlook on life.

I have tried to find order within apparent disorder.

The creation of something new is not accomplished by the intellect but by the play instinct acting from inner necessity. The creative mind plays with the objects it loves.

And then to leave a bit of a trail for those that choose to understand, without too many attachments.

Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism.

Carl Gustav Jung 1875-1961

forever Jung and Half-formed boy Predators

January 28, 2009

calvinhobbes1Why won’t these little worms just grow up?

Enough is enough, already.

Yes, we know you’re tough and smart. We know the gym class shower room was demeaning. And yes pulling the wings off flies does hold some amusement value.

  • But seriously: Get some help in the second half of your life.

There are some people (mostly male) that think the worst of people, are never satisfied with any accomplishment and would rather kill something rather than share a little bit (let alone collaborate).

  • They’re so emotionally shut down and compartmentalized that all that’s left is fear and anger.

It’s been my experience that modern franchising is practiced by fearful men who lack the confidence and maturity that should have been formed during their boyhood. They’ve never learned to trust themselves, mask their inadequacies with arrogance and accumulate wealth but are unable to enjoy the use of those resources.

They act-out as if they were european dragons or worms (from the old English): like Smaug of The Hobbit fame: only hoard and destroy, are master hynotists, believe themselves to be invulnerable (although they are not), have a dry but cruel sense of humour with an “overwhelming personality”; their Achilles’ Heel is always hubris: overweening arrogance, superbia.

They try to deny part of their nature but it keeps popping up, especially when their Divine Right to Decide is questioned by lesser mortals.

One Model: Within every individual, there are two forces, world views or archetypes at play: every male has within him a female side, and every female has male characteristics within her.

Carl Gustav Jung identified unconscious forces called anima and animus.

  • anima is the unconscious feminine component of men and
  • animus is the unconscious masculine component in women.

Jung believed that the anima and animus act as guides to the unconscious unified Self, and that forming an awareness and a connection with the anima or animus is one of the most difficult and rewarding steps in psychological growth.

Jung reported that he identified his anima as she spoke to him, as an inner voice, unexpectedly one day.

Often, when people ignore the anima or animus complexes, the anima or animus vies for attention by projecting itself on others. This explains, according to Jung, why we are sometimes immediately attracted to certain strangers: we see our anima or animus in them. Love at first sight is an example of anima and animus projection. Moreover, people who strongly identify with their gender role (e.g. a man who acts aggressively and never cries) have not actively recognized or engaged their anima or animus.

Jung attributed human rational thought to be the male nature, while the irrational aspect is considered to be natural female. Consequently, irrationality is the male anima shadow and rationality is the female animus shadow. (Analytical Psychology)

When a half-formed male is seriously confronted, he becomes unglued: screaming, cursing, the issue becomes a life-and-death struggle against the Questioner. I’ve seen this type of tantrum up close and you tend not to forget the experience. I think every franchisee has experienced this.

  • It can be a franchisor, a lawyer, a politician: it doesn’t matter (see Big Franchising).

Irrationality is the shadow side of an unbalanced psyche and it gets played out in volcanic bursts of rage. Innocent questions are heard by the child as if you were trying to kill them. (And in a psychological sense, you are: you’re calling them to put aside their childish ways.)

  • In franchising, this acting-out these man-boys, empowered by iron-clad agreements that are the same across all systems,  have the 100% unilateral right to bankrupt you and drive you into a mental hell.

All of the rights are on one side: for mom and pops, franchising is Unsafe at any Brand.

After the honeymoon is over and you’ve signed on for multiple, self-reinforcing monopoly relationships, your economic gender assault can occur with very little warning or defence.

Calvin and Hobbes

Psychopomps: Guides to the newly Dead

October 27, 2008

Each human being has one thing that no other creature on the earth has:

  • an awareness that, one day, we will physically die.

The discomfort that this reality poses is dealt with in several ways, across different cultures and time. We create stories that help us live our lives in accord to our beliefs.

Some stories are small and some are big. Myths are big.

A psychopomp is a term used to describe a specific spirit, angel, or deity whose responsibility is to escort newly-deceased souls to the afterlife. The term comes from the Greek word ψυχοπομπός (psychopompos) which literally means the “guide of souls”. Psychopomps are traditionally depicted in the following forms: deer, horse, dog, raven, owl, crow, etc.).

An important point to note: They do not judge. Their job is to give safe passage only.

Because we fear and deny death so much, we fail to see both sides [a benevolent as well as a malevolent side] of any classic role. Anything to do with death: automatically bad and ugly. Christianity has not helped very much with this.

Check out how artists have depicted the psychopomp: the Greek v. Michelangelo’s The Last Judgment ferryman.

The Greeks saw Charon as a ferryman who carried souls of the newly deceased across the river that divided the world of the living from the world of the dead. A coin was sometimes placed on or in the mouth of a dead person as payment to Charon. Those who could not pay the fee, or those whose bodies were left unburied, had to wander the shores for one hundred years.

Jungian Psychology views the psychopomp as a mediator between the unconscious and conscious realms. It is symbolically personified in dreams as a wise man (or woman), or sometimes as a helpful animal. A soul guide, guru or teacher.

We die once physically and where our soul goes is a very large question.

But in a knowledge-or awareness-sense we die many, many times in our life.

This is a tricky concept at times but here goes the logic:

  • we view the world in a certain way based on our background, skills and knowledge up to that time in our life,
  • as time goes by, life [no matter what our free will has to say about it], seems to force experiences onto us
  • our choice is not change/no change. Our choice is whether we accept/reject or life.

Therefore, in a very real but hard to see way, we are becoming something and someone new, all the time. As a snake sheds their skin, though, we must cast aside the old [die to the old self?] in order to embrace our new identity.

  • Does this make any sense?

Summary: In order to live properly, we must accept new experiences [good or bad] as necessary for our development as humans. We are engineered to mature into adults and if we continue to fail to “grow up”, we will pay a price.

The Greeks maybe saying that refusing your own life will mean you will wander, alone, for 100 years.

  • Not truly dead but certainly not alive. Surviving not living.

We hate franchise lawyers and those they seem to protect so much because they remind us of our own death and our refusal to accept it finite nature.

In our old, incomplete and innocent eyes, they are “bad men” because they enable very painful experiences to happen to thousands of people. But some traditions say that life is, by definition, a vale of tears and that franchising is just one example of many different types of pain coming into our lives.

After some time away from the battle, it seems almost as if “they” are doing a thankless job. Almost that Big Franchising is an undertaker to your too child-like self.

Our choice, maybe only for a moment at first, is to put aside our fear of the pain that comes from change and see if there is a well-hidden message waiting to learn.

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